I was reading through my old journals and I came across this sentence:
If Jesus washed feet, I should never exalt myself above the position of servant.
WOW. Where did I lose sight of that one? As a mom, this is a difficult lesson, because I can get SO lost in serving that I forget to take care of myself, allowing sickness, stress or depression to hinder my ability to serve. The flip side of the coin though... is far more dangerous - getting lost in taking care of ME.
This is the basic teaching of our society isn't it? Look out for number one, and all that. Everywhere we go, we are overwhelmed with advertisements wooing us with their products, telling us that we deserve to buy it. Go on! Be selfish! You earned that money, so why not?
And what about relationships? Marriage is quickly going from "I do." to "I'll try it." because there is the expectation that "love is all about my happiness." But not Jesus' kind of love... oh no! It was about sacrifice, humility, forgiveness, trust and yes, being a servant. Mark 10:45 "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."
So how do I teach this to my kids?? I have a few ideas, but as with anything worthwhile, it takes some work:
1. Serve with my kids. Let them be little apprentices! A good way to start is to pack a shoebox for Operation Christmas Child, or let them pick out which of their toys they would like to donate to a shelter. We do this often, and they come with me to make the deliveries.
2. Turn off the tv, and limit other worldly influences. It's my job to protect them from the constant push of sin. Some people argue with me and say, "How can they learn to be strong if you keep them in a bubble?" I say, no. I will teach them about the world as they are mature enough to handle it. For example, my husband will explain to my sons what pornography is, teaching them and warning them of it's deadly nature. We won't just let them watch a porn. They don't learn how NOT to sin, by learning to sin.
3. Read the relevant parts of the bible with them and talk talk talk!
4. When caring for my children at home, always point them in the direction of looking out for the good of their siblings before themselves. Ask them lots of questions ABOUT their brother or sister.... How is Bobby feeling right now? What do you think Bobby is trying to tell you? How can you help Bobby? How can you show Bobby what Jesus is like? I'm trying to get their focus onto others. They will think about themselves naturally enough (as I do :0).
I'm sure there are other great ideas as well. Please share them with me!!
Have a great night... I have to run. My baby is trying to play in the recycling again. Sigh. :) ttyl